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Ways To Listen To Your Child

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One of the ways in which children develop positive self-esteemis by being listened to. Not just kind of hearing what they have to say, but really tuning in and connecting with what they're saying and how they feel. When children feel valued in this way, it does wonders for how they see themselves in the world. Here are three powerful ways to listen to your child:
​Listen with your EYES
​Look into your child's eyes whenever possible when he/she is speaking to you. This shows your child that he/she has your full attention and that you're really focussed on what they're saying.
Listen with your EARS
Really hear what your child is telling you. You can ask questions such as "What made you feel that way?" or "Why do you think that happened?" to help you focus more on listening to your child. Also, by extending the conversation with these questions, your child feels heard by you.
Listen with your HEART
Put yourself in your child's feel and try to connect with his/her feelings​. You can repeat some of the things your child tells you, and use a phrase like "It sounds like you feel...". Your child will feel a sense of trust knowing that you understand his/her feelings.
Children learn how to listen by having good "listening role models" in their lives. When your child truly feels listened to (especially by you!), their confidence increases....and who wouldn't want more of that? :)

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